Driving Etiquette from Ford and The Emily Post Institute

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Tips on how to reduce road rage, just in time for the holidays.

Holiday driving can be a time of family togetherness – but that togetherness can turn toxic if you are stuck with a squabbling family and terrible traffic. Ford Motor Company and and The Emily Post Institute worked together to develop holiday travel etiquette tips to reduce road rage and keep family strife to a minimum.

Daniel Post Senning, the great-great-grandson of Emily Post offers ways for drivers  – and their passengers – to improve their time in their vehicles.

Driving EtiquetteEmily Post Holiday Driving Etiquette Tips

Drivers are hosts: you wouldn’t invite family and friends to your home without planning for their comfort and entertainment, so why get behind the wheel without thinking through the drive?

  • When stuck in traffic, a little preparation goes a long way. Before hopping behind the wheel, curate your upcoming road trip with podcasts, audiobooks, TED Talks – even online classes. With in-car entertainment and communication systems like Ford SYNC 3, bring a world of content along for the ride.
  • Chivalry’s not dead… it just looks different. Holding the door for someone will never go out of style, but with automated keyless entry and remote start, modern protocol can prove puzzling. Driver chivalry means unlocking the door before your elderly aunt even tries to open it, or getting the heat (and even the heated seats) going before Grandma buckles up for a chilly trip to Christmas dinner.
  •  Your passengers may not be all that familiar with your ride. Put them at ease to help them feel more at home. Just like you would show a guest at your home where the restroom and kitchen are located, let passengers know about the controls they have for entertainment systems, seats and windows. Identify power sources for phones and electronics, like the smart-charging USB ports in the rear of the vehicle. Make sure all of your passengers have what they need before your trip begins.
  • The passenger is honored guest: you wouldn’t show up to your Chanukah host’s home empty-handed, so don’t forget the same courtesy for your driver. To thank him or her for bearing the stress of high-pressure holiday driving, lighten the load by taking on some responsibilities of your own. Offer to help pay for gas, fetch snacks and drinks, and pack the car with suitcases and holiday gifts.

Communication is key in relationships, both on and off the road

Effective preparation goes hand-in-hand with clear communication – between driver, passengers and their vehicles.

  • Don’t play the passive passenger: if you’re lucky enough to be sitting in the front passenger seat on a long journey, assist your driver through helpful communication. Stay alert and keep an eye out for road signs. Above all, avoid all comments on how your chauffeur is driving – no one likes a back seat driver, especially when road conditions turn stressful!
  • To Grandmother’s house we go: traveling with family? Avoid the stress of incessant “Are we there yet?” conversations by building an itinerary and communicating your plans. Talk about stops for food and restroom breaks so everyone knows what to expect. Kids can follow along, track progress, anticipate their favorite spots – even figure out arrival times on their own. With navigation systems, you can determine the quickest route, locate family-friendly pit stops along the way, and plug in your itinerary in advance to keep the trip on track.
  • Voice activation puts a whole world of information at your command from the driver’s seat, whether locating the next rest stop or calling Grandpa hands-free to let him know you’re just up the road. With today’s voice recognition clearer than ever, people aren’t just naming their cars – they’re talking to them! Just be sure you talk to your real passengers at least as much as you communicate with your car’s infotainment system.
  • Ford studies show Americans are conflicted on in-car entertainment – while three in five drivers think passengers should weigh in, just as many say the one behind the wheel should have the final say when it comes to entertainment. We all want to hear our favorite karaoke number on a long road trip, but a distracted driver is a safety hazard. As a polite passenger, defer to your chauffeur and offer to play DJ or navigate the control screen to make her job easier. If the kids in the back have their own entertainment setup, make sure they keep “Christmas Vacation” at a noise level that doesn’t surpass the cue to “Turn right in 300 feet.”

New technology means new manners

Driving Etiquette

Keeping everyone plugged in and powered up keeps road trippers happy; my family in a Ford Explorer

In 1949, when Emily Post first wrote about automotive etiquette, the car was the technological innovation. In today’s technology landscape, cars come with growing app libraries of their own – and just like smartphones, nearly everyone can use a reminder on their polite use. Make sure in-car innovations serve to enhance, not hinder, your enjoyment of holiday travel.

  • Support existing safety systems: battling the tryptophan haze after a big Thanksgiving dinner? Remember, the temptation to fall asleep on the way home affects both driver and passenger. If you’ve been spared the role of designated driver this holiday season and are riding comfortably in the passenger seat, don’t begin to snooze as soon as the heated seats kick in – stay alert and talk with your driver. Smart driver-assist features like Ford’s lane-keeping aid are incredibly helpful tools, but extra eyes on the road never hurt!
  • Connectivity caution: when traveling through remote areas on the way to your holiday celebration, you might lose cell reception. Know your car’s navigation system capabilities, do a brief review of the major roads you’ll be traveling ahead of time, and keep actual maps in the car – ensuring  a backup plan if connectivity goes out. Download a GB or two of your favorite music to help get through those pesky “no streaming available” zones, keeping passengers calm, cool and collected – no matter what the journey brings.
  • Diffuse tension in a tight space: we’re all familiar with the drama that can ensue when hitting the road for the holidays. From arguments over the middle seat to debates over the radio station, tight quarters can lead to curt conversation. To diffuse tension, call on in-car features to lighten the mood. From massaging seats, to a literal change of tune on the radio, your car’s systems can help ensure the continued comfort of your passenger-guests.
  • Be kind, respect the lines: we all know not to fight over precious parking spaces, but it goes further than that. In a crowded parking lot on Christmas Eve, no one likes the Grinch who straddles two spots. Selfish behavior is never in style, but careless parking is especially frowned upon during the season of giving. Show respect to other drivers by staying between the lines – and if you’re not a master manipulator in reverse, no one has to know! Let advanced, semi-automated technologies like active park assist with perpendicular park and park-out assist help you squeeze in and out of that tight spot.

Judy Antell, who is TravelingMom.com's Free in 50 States editor, lives in Park Slope, Brooklyn, with her husband and... More about Judy Antell